Safety Tips that we don’t always think about when you’re on your own

Tips to save your life

It’s often the simplest things that we forget about and let slide that actually land us into trouble. Here are some tips that were recently sent to my wife that I think are awesome and very applicable for anyone, no matter your gender, no matter where in the world you live and most of all should not be just passed off as “oh, that will never happen to me.”

In daylight hours, refresh yourself of these things to do in an emergency situation… This is for you, and for you to share with your wife, your children, & everyone you know. After reading these 9 crucial tips, forward them to someone you care about. Share this post with your social profiles and anything else you could do. It could save a life and it never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do :
The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do! This is great if someone grabs a hold of you and you’re in close quarters.

2.. Learned this from a tourist guide.
If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. Chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy.. The driver won’t see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (checking their bbm groups, their what’s app, their Facebook/Twitter profiles, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS!) The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR , LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE..

5. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, Repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything,wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you.
If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.

6. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
C.) Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side.. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

7. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot This is especially true at NIGHT!

8. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; and even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, Preferably in a zig -zag pattern!

9. As women are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked ‘for help’ into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted  his next victim.


LinkedIn is Compromised and up to 6 Million passwords are at risk

Have you heard the news today about LinkedIn?

LinkedIn Icoa

Has Your LinkedIn Account been Hacked?

LinkedIn has announced that they may have been HACKED! And up to 6 million users’ passwords have been compromised.

Please change your password now!

If you have used the same password as LinkedIn on any other sites, you need to change that password EVERYWHERE. Please remember that you are most secure when using unique passwords for each site. Try to think of a system for yourself e.g. The first three letters of the site, your dog’s name followed by the year your first child was born i.e for LinkedIn it would be linrex2000. This will then result in a unique password for every site you use while still being easy for you to remember your password.

I hope you find this information useful. For more information please contact me by commenting on this post.



The inner suckiness of the local Italian restaurant

After a long and hard week we often decide to have a take away, or something similar so it’s nice and easy on the kitchen- namely my gorgeous wife. With having small kids in the house the inevitable answer comes when I ask “so guys, what’re we having for dinner?” and the chorus chimes – “pizza daddy.” now the hunt really begins.

We live in a small town about 20 mins or so form Durban, in South Africa. The problem comes not here, but with us. See, we used to own Italian restaurants, had several of them in fact and the last one was an award winning establishment of note. So we’re kinda, ok let me rephrase that, I’m kinda picky when it comes to anything Italian. Sometimes I think my wife only married me or even offered to bear my children so that I could make her traditional napoletana and bolognese sauce! But we have a few establishments in our area that you can go to.

Today I’ll run through just one of them, and I’ll let you know all about the others as we try them.

This place is called Pappa Giovanni’s, and it’s in Hillcrest, Durban.

When I had my last place I used to try my utmost to make sure this place had as few tables as possible on a Friday night. Terrible I know, but who said business was fair. But after we sold our restaurant they really started to pick up their socks. Now we quite like their pizza. I don’t eat anything else there, so I can’t comment on the rest of the menu.

It’s a small place, about 14 tables with Italian paraphernalia all over the walls and other decorative pieces. Cozy, or at least it would be if it didn’t have bloody great big glass sliding doors as it’s entrance. They have wrap around canvas blinds that keep most of the chills out, but I’d say a good 20% still manage to creep their way under the blinds, up your trouser legs or skirt and to areas where they’re just not welcome!

Anyway, back to the story. In my family we have 2 adults, a 3 1/2 year old and a 6 week old baby. So I figures we should be safe with ordering 3 pizzas. Time upon arrival was 17:30 and the place had 5 tables. All was good I thought, my daughter wanted to come with, so I’d brought my trustee iPad as companion to keep her occupied whilst we waited, and her dinner time is normally at 18:30. The waiter kindly told me the food would be ready in 15-20 minutes, as they were quite? Awesome stuff!

At 17:38 our waiter kindly came over and took our order and placed it on the computer system, known as a POS, or Point Of Sale. It’s basically a computer system to track food orders and stock used and a damn good way for any decent waiter worth their name to steal from the owners of the restaurant, oh and it’s patrons.

Now let me revert back a bit here. We’ve had pizza’s from this place many, many times before. The pizza’s are pretty good. I would rate them a 7/10 on the Nick Rating guide ( yeah get used to the name, I’ll be using it a lot in future.) the tomato sauce used on the pizza is good, the pizza base is nicely made and e ingredients are of a pretty good quality. The pizza’s are cooked in a genuine wood fired oven, so that always adds a bit extra to the score.

At 18:15 I asked the waiter to check on the order. My maths might be old but I though the 15 – 20 minutes had already gone by. At 18:25 I started to get a bit more vocal with my displeasure at having to wait further for my food. My daughter was now bored of the iPad, my drink long finished, only one more take away order in and now my daughter was also complaining of being hungry.

Yes, 5 minutes later the manageress came over to tell me the pizza’s would be coming soon, no apology. “excuse me” I said as she started to walk away after thinking her job at been done with me.

“can you please tell me why your pizza’s always take so long to make?” I asked her.

“well sir, we had a really busy night last night and we ran out of bases, so the guys have had to prep today. They hadn’t finished their prep, so we ran out a bit tonight.” she answered.

Now there’s one thing you should avoid at all times when dealing with me – no BS! Period.

So I replied as nicely as I could, “oh dear, want time do you open in the mornings then?”

“At 10:00 am she said.” I thought about this for the 0.2 milliseconds that it took to fathom just how stupid an answer that really was.

“I see, so you’re telling me that for lunch and a total of 6 tables and take away orders tonight your kitchen hasn’t managed to do enough prep, roll enough pizza bases to satisfy your restaurant- on a Saturday.” I asked the manageress.

“oh” was the reply. Obviously realizing I had caught her out, I asked for the owners number. I actually know him, but had forgotten his number. He’ll be getting a call tomorrow.

So, my order of 3 pizza’s arrived at 18:33. Almost an hour from when the order was first placed, according to the time on the bill and order slip. Wow I thought.

R260 later, we had our pizza’s and were off and away back home, which was another 12 minutes away. Daughter crying for her dinner, dad ready to murder any and all that may have passed.

The verdict of this fine establishment:

Don’t go there for takeaways, or at least double the anticipated time of arrival for your order. The pizza’s were good though. We had a Mexican, which had enough chille on it to power a boeing 767 for a good 250km. Once scraped off, the pizza was very good. It had peri peri beans, onions, mushrooms, mince and of course chille. I had a “pigletto” which had ham, bacon, salami and banana – to which I added avocado at home. A lovely pizza, but I’m still not a fan of banana on this one. My daughter had a margherita with extra ham and bacon. It was lovely.

I would return there again only for a sit down with lots of time, and the fact that we have a 3.5 year old and a 6 week old basically means we’ll see them in about 2 years.

Thanks for teaching us how not to do customer service. I only hope that they get it right with more customers than they get it wrong with!

Social Technology – it’s just a waste of time

Social Technology, often referred to as Social Media in South Africa, is the actual technology that is used when sharing data to multiple people across the Internet for social purposes. They vary tremendously in what they do and what they can achieve – both for business and personally.

Purpose of Social Technology

The basic purpose of Social Technolgies are to be able to create a community. This can be a community around ourselves, a business or even a product. Take Red Bull for example, this is both a product and a company. Through large scale efforts across multiple Social Technologies the company Red Bull has managed to create a vast community around it and it’s main product – it’s energy drink.

Name some Social Technologies

Blogs – a small website where you can put pages of content onto (your own views, good information, random stuff – whatever you want) and the general public will have the option to comment on what you’ve said, review it or even share it with their own social circles.

Facebook – a social platform that’s designed for people to write and add comments about daily activities in their life, or about articles that you’ve spoken about to your own group of friends. These friends can then comment or like what you have to say etc. It’s a great way to get the communication going.

Twitter – A free service that you can add your own comments, articles, message, pictures or whatever you like. But you only have 140 characters to do this, so it’s a bit like an sms.

LinkedIn – A similar service to Facebook, except it’s on a very business-like format. In fact, it’s a social network for professionals ONLY.

YouTube – A picture is worth a 1000 words right? So then how many words is a video worth? This is why YouTube is the 2nd largest search engine in the world. There are videos for practically everything on it, and yes people do look at them. If you’re lucky enough you may have hundreds or even thousands of people looking at your videos – like the lion, buffalo and croc video.

Google + – Similar to Facebook, Google has recently launched its own version of Facebook so it too can try and capitalise on the success that Facebook has had. In here though there is a lot more choice of who can be in your group and see what you want them to see. So your boss doesn’t have to know that you’ve got a horrible hangover just because you’re friends with him/her on Facebook.

And there are plenty more out there too…

So what’s Social Media then?

Social Media is any technology that allows users to share media of any sort (written content, images, video), and also allows other users to comment on that media, so that a conversation may be started.

The key though is to choose the right technology to use depending on your goal. My suggestion – define your target market first and then find which technology they are using, then get trained on how to do it properly!

The first few weeks with a newborn are always interesting, hey?

It’s always an interesting time during the first 4 weeks of a babies life. I mean, apart from the effects that mom and (hopefully) dad have to deal with. In fact let’s look at some of them:

1. The routine change. You know, dad goes to work, mom stays at home at does nothing. Ha, right. Maybe 30 years ago, but nowadays a dual income home is a necessity and not a luxury. This means that dad needs to help out with the new person in his life. Mom will probably have to get back to work quickly then, so whilst she is at home, mom has to look after the newborn, get the food ready for the family, stress about no sleep for her, for her husband, for her kids (if they have more) and then there’s her own stress too! Hectic.
2. Dealing with crying in the house as a norm. It sometimes takes quite awhile to get used to the noise of a crying baby again. It’s not that it’s bad or anything, it’s just different from what you’re used to.
3. Having to split yourself and your time into multiples, depending on how many other kids you have. This can be the most different thing to learn how to do. How do you split your time, your affection and your love to more than just one? This one you’ll have to figure out for yourself.
4. Feeding. Now this really can be a tricky one. Breast is best, or is it bottle? It’s certainly no lie that if a mom can breast feed for a bit it is great to get the initial colostrum inside the baby, get the immune system stronger with mom’s antibodies and all that good stuff, but there are a lot of woman that simply can’t breast feed. This can be due to health, breast jobs done or even stress. I know as a dad I actually enjoy having a bottle in one hand and a baby in the other. It’s a time of bonding, of reflection.
5. The dreaded reflux. Apparently lots of babies suffer with acid reflux, and this causes the littlies to cry a lot and spit up milk all the time. I know I suffer with it very badly and am on chronic medicine for it, so I can only imagine how horrible it is for a little person.

But hold on a second, I’ve forgotten the best part. Wind.

Yup, I reckon the worst thing is wind. So many babies suffer from taking in wind whilst feeding and this seems to cause the most troubles for the little guys. It can also be a horrible time for the parents. I can remember with our first child the 10 weeks of bad colic that we all endured. It was horrible, truly one of the worst experiences I can remember.

There were a few things that helped.
1. Correct feeding positions together with lots of burping.
2. We visited the chiro and actually found some issues. I highly recommend this for Caesar babies. They get pulled so much during the procedure, it’s no wonder their little bodies need re-aligning.
3. We even bought a flipping expensive rocking device, that didn’t really work. But our daughter enjoyed it when she got to be 2.
4. Drugs. We finally resorted to a 26 year old concoction of paed meds that worked like a charm. But this isn’t for everyone.

The most important thing that we found was to really try and enjoy as much if it as possible. It lasts for such a short period of time and you really do miss those happy times. So, forget about your sleep loss, your tired screaming brain and stop stressing. Enjoy your newborn as often as possible. It’ll be worth it, just wait and see.



Remember the added costs when thinking of your next child

What are the costs that you think of when thinking of babies?

Seriously. I suppose it depends on where you are in the world. Here in South Africa you need to have a good private medical insurance because most of the time you don’t want to go through the public medical system – which is only really good if you’ve been shot, stabbed or such. You know, the things that the doctors are used to dealing with in there.

So let’s look at some of the costs we remember.
You’ve got the normal things, like nappies ( or diapers depending on where you are), the cosmetics, the towels, the baby grows, prams, car seats, cots, compactums, other clothes and importantly the receiving blankets. On this point if you are buying 5, then maybe consider doubling that number. You can never have enough of those things, and once you’re all done with populating the world they make really great dust cloths and grease cloths.

But what about all the things that people forget to tell you. Let’s imagine it. You’ve just found out you’re going to be parents! Whoopee. After your initial shock, you start working out the costs, and you think ok this is cool, we can manage. You always find a way to manage. But nobody tells you that you may need to see the gynae between 4 and 8 times during the pregnancy. Add that up, plus the amount they charge for the birth, and it’s a lucrative business. But money can be no option for the safety of your child and the mother.

Then don’t forget to check well beforehand that you private medical insurance will cover ALL of the costs that your gynae, your paed, your anesthetist will charge, if they don’t then start saving too.

Once the birth is done you’ll also need to remember your new bundle of joy needs inoculations done. Depending on where you are these can be fairly regular and also vary in cost tremendously, anything from R100 to R700. but who gives these jabs? Don’t forget to pay the clinic, the paed, the ante-natal sister or whoever you choose to go to.

So what happens then? You’ve got the jabs done, but is the baby putting on weight? Is he or she doing ok, or is there a problem? Maybe you’ll want to consider going to a sister for a feeding consult. Don’t forget to add this to your budget too.

Whilst we’re at it you’d be better off putting some extra aside for when your miracle gets sick. At least then you’ll have the money to get real medical advise, instead of checking on Dr Google!

I know all this sounds like doom and gloom, but it’s all part of the course. It really isn’t that bad. It’s just that nobody tells you about all these extra baby expenses when you first get pregnant, or when you first decide to have kids.

Hopefully you’ll have learnt from my mistakes and will remember the above. I’m sure there’s some stuff I’ve forgotten about, but you can always tell me by commenting on my post.

Cheers for now

Projectile vomit at Midnight

Night number 3 came along with a new routine for my wife and I. I’m not really one of those dads that will just watch mom wake up at all hours, get moody due to lack of sleep, and quite frankly I prefer to have my normal wife back, so I like to help out.

So last night we fed our newborn at 21:30 and his next feed was due about 3 hours after that. I duly set my alarm for 23:15 and went to sleep.

It was great! Our boy woke up at 23:30 and I came in and started to feed him. Only thing was that I couldn’t Figure out that he had huge amounts of gas. But it wasn’t coming out..

It did eventually, all over me! Just a small hurk, but still not the best thing at midnight. So off we went to get him undressed, cleaned up, changed again and back to see if he wanted some more bottle.

I really just wish babies came with a warning light. A big flashing red light that means:

Warning! I’m about to puke.

Or a brown light that meant similarly

Careful, I’m not finished pooing yet.

Or better still, a flashing yellow to indicate (if you have a boy)

Fire hydrant about to explode, cover it or yourself quick!

Anyway, back to the saga from last night. My second attempt to feed went even worse than the first one did. This produced a proper
projectile vomit over me, him, and my face! All at 12:30.

But why did this happen?

Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. My wife seems to think that
our boy has too much wind, so he often needs a second winding.

Hopefully tonight will be different. It will be my final night before
work starts again, so the real adventure begins tonight.


Welcome to the world Leo Gard

After a relatively difficult pregnancy for my wife, what with the baby pushing on her pelvis a lot, her spine, bladder and all the rest of it the big day finally came on Wednesday 25th April 2012.

Our gynecologist, Dr Tim Berios, works out of Umhlanga Medical Center in Durban, South Africa. Although working out of this hospital he actually does all of his surgeries out of the fairly new Ethekwini Heart Hospital.

It was good to see that Leo gave Dr Tim a good run for his money during the delivery. Leo was a breach baby, so the gyne had to go to gym to get him out, but because Leo was breach he was a Caesar baby.

I was there the whole time in theatre, although I had strict instructions from my wife that I wasn’t allowed to video the event, only take a few pictures. I’ll add some in the upcoming posts.

I love c-sections. No labour, you have a time, wife gets drugged and there you go. Although it’s easy for me to say, hey? All I have to do is stand there and make sure the baby is ok. I suppose the husband also has to deal with some hormones during the pregnancy too. But I’m
sure my wife would agree, c-section is the way to go.

We are very Blessed that our Leo is completely healthy, 10 fingers and
toes, no problems at all. All of our thanks and praises can only go to
our Father upstairs.

Thank you Lord.

Baby Leo was 3.76Kg when born, so about 8 and a bit pounds. That’s a decent weight, so we’re happy. He was also 52.50cm long. Not bad considering both his parents are under 5ft 10inches!

Anyway, welcome my boy to this wonderful great big world. I can’t wait to show it to you.

Your dad